February 26,2009

Well I want to thank those that I RSVP'd to our "Personality Traits" night. It is our first gathering in 2009! wow. How time is flying. Sorry to those who were planning on January's event, however, due to the speaker's schedule , we had to cancel. She will be back during the year. I am so excited about this year's calendar. The Personality Trait program will be a 2 part series which Kathleen Gaughran, R.F.P. Associates Career Consulting, will be running the show. She will administer the Meyers Briggs Test for us in February and results will be in during our March meeting! What fun it will be. We have some old faces returning, we have some new faces attending and all in all I think we will continue to grow, learn and laugh! I look forward to seeing everyone there. If you have not been invited and would like to email me jules@dipnight.com and I will be happy to evite you! Thanks and hope you all have a great day!

Court Follow up

For all those who follow my story, I was in court yesterday for the first time representing MYSELF! wow. It was great. I did not choke, I was not crazed. Just calm, collected and survived it. At the end of the session I was referred to two programs which I want to share with my readers

1. Focus on Kids: offered through the Jewish Community Center. Ran by Heni Schwartz LCSW and phone is 203.389.5599 ext 111.
2. Dr. Lou Tufano in Branford CT : phone: 203.483.5432

Both of these programs and or people help in high conflict divorce where communication is extremely hard between parents. It allows parents to learn how to communicate in some fashion. Maybe it means a mediator, maybe it is a email system, maybe it is a face to face meeting with a therapist, however, the focus for both of these is the CHILDREN. Making sure they are the main concern and that they will benefit from the communication.

I just wanted to share this with you , as Court is not always the answer. Court can not force nor make it easier for us to communicate with other people. Sometimes you have to look outside the fighting walls of justice to find the answer.

I hope this information can help someone else. I am positive that it will help me!

thanks and have a great friday!

For anyone looking for a great buy right now, here are some great homes for sale.

each one is located in an area which qualifies for 102% financing if you qualify.

Most people have been watching the news and some sad stuff is going on out there with

relation to the economy, however, housing prices have dropped considerably and deals are out there to be made. If anyone knows someone who may be interested in any of these homes, let mek know at jules@dipnight.com

Have a great day!

Just FYI....November's Meeting

Dipsters:
November meeting is being changed on the calendar
this night will now be a night of introduction to Tarot Cards
and Clairvoyance. Cori Savanelli, came and did private readings in August and is
now willing to do a group reading, and teach us about the process. You will also be
able to purchase a set of your own Tarot cards from her at a reduced rate. More info
on that to come! So for all of you interested in learning about this please sign up and
come thursday night in November to enjoy!!

Wine Tasting

Well a fabulous turn out and a lot of fun was had at our Wine Tasting on October 16, 2008!
For anyone not able to attend, Tony from Shoreline Wines in Guilford CT, hosted the event with 6 great wines.
We concentrated on 3 whites and 3 reds to prepare us for the holidays. The wines chosen were great accents to our food choices during this time of year.
The one called "Earthquake" was a favorite of the red drinkers. A great wine for with or with out food or a hostess gift.
The participants tried the six wines, were educated on the tastes, the legs, the fruits, and of course what foods to serve with each. We tried a price range of 12.00 a bottle to 50.00 a bottle.
A great time, laughs and education! We hope to have Tony back again.
For more information or feedback , send me an email at jules@dipnight.com!
Thanks and have a great day!

Supboena......now we are talking!

To all my friends and dipsters who have chosen to go "pro se" for any reason...I have some procedural information I would like to share with you.

I have been served with a modification of child support and alimony. Which of course, I am sure it is not an increase. (LOL)

I believe and know of information which will proved beneficial to me in the arguing of this case.
I phoned the Clerk's office and found out that one appearing as Pro Se can indeed get subpoenas issued and here is the process:

Go to http://www.jud.ct.gov
go to General Forms
you will need to fill out JD CL 43 and JD CV 62
JD CL 43 = Supboena
JD CV 62= Application for issuance of supboena

After you have filled out the information
you will have to head down to the clerk's office
for New Haven it is located at 235 Church Street, New Haven
on the 2nd floor.

Once you are there they will review, and submit to a judge for approval.
Some are approved, others may not, you will have to wait til a decision.
They can either be mailed or available for pick up.

You will then be responsible to have a state marshal serve the person
in which you have had the subpoena issued. It should cost you approximately
45.00 for service.

The originals signed by state marshal have to be returned to the clerk's office.
But make sure to make copies for your self to have for proof.
Then the court will register the serve and will put you on the Short Calendar to
be heard!

I hope this helps.
Call the clerk's office for add'l info: New Haven is 203.503.6800
Thank you and hope you all have a great day!

Jules@dipnight.com

Contempt Charges

Good Morning !

I wanted to inform you of a procedure which I have educated myself on and thought I would pass it on to all of my webviewers.
I have paid, as I am sure many of us have, a lot of money for Attorney representation over the past 4 years of my seperation and divorce. To the point where you just have had it with writing out those checks. Well I have finally learned how to file contempt on my own and file a pro se appearence. If one goes to www.jud.ct.gov you can download the forms necessary for Contempt, Pro Se Appearence and a Cover Sheet Facsimile for the court. (Fax# for New Haven Office of the Clerk is 203.503.6885).
Another interesting thing about contempt charges , it is FREE!! You simply fill out the form, as best you can, fax to the court number listed in your district and a few days later you will receive it in the mail with a list of state marshal's.
You then need to hire on of them to serve the other party. This was $43.50 for me. I called a local State Marshal in the town where my X Husband lived, so there was not much traveling for him!
Anyway, I have my first Contempt Charge, Pro Se hearing on September 24, 2008 and I will let you know how it goes! I thought this might be helpful for folks out there who know they have contempt charges but simply do not want to incur add'l costs. Life is expensive enough, and this is one way to get a result with out the extra money!
If you have specific questions feel free to contact me at jules@dipnight.com and I will gladly help!
Thanks, and hope you all have a great day!

Jules